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Sunday, November 2, 2014
The Five Major Covenants in the Old Testament
The Old Testament is built around covenants. There are five major covenants that are important that should be noted:
The Noahic Covenant:The covenant to not ever flood the world again. This covenant can be found in Genesis Chapter 9
Abrahamic Covenant: In this covenant God blessed Abraham with three blessings which were to make Abraham a great nation, He was going to give Abraham a Promised Land, and that Abraham was going to be a blessing to all people. This covenant can first be found in Genesis Chapter 12.
The Mosaic Covenant: "If Israel will obey His commands they will be His chosen people. This covenant can be found in Exodus 19:5 & 6.
The Davidic Covenant: "Your family will forever rule over Israel; You are going to rule forever". This covenant can be found in 2 Samuel Chapter 7
The New Covenant: "The covenant that will link the Old Testament and the New Testament together". Forgiveness of the failures in the past and Laws that will be written on their hearts. This covenant can be found in Jeremiah 31.
Monday, July 28, 2014
Counselor's Role: Facilitating Goals
Since being out of the military I have had the opportunity to counsel people more in an informal way. By this, I mean that there are people that I have come across, such as at the homeless shelter that will open up to me and ask for advice. In all of these situations I have found that it is better to facilitate personal goals of the counselee. Kollar states that, "Clients are the experts on what they want to change as well as in determining what they want to work on" (Kollar, 2011, Kindle Loc. 1266). In most cases if the counselee is directed toward goals by the counselor they will not take ownership of it and usually will not do the work needed toward that goal. I believe that when the counselee sets the goals they will be more likely to work toward them and then the counselor's job is to facilitate and check for the benchmarks of working toward those goals. Follow up, Follow up, Follow up!
As far during the counseling session, I also take try to take the middle road of confrontation. I believe that issues should be addressed, but there should also be a middle ground for confrontation. McMinn calls this middle ground emphatic confrontation. He also states that, "When counselors confront too often, too directly, or without establishing adequate trust, clients will distant themselves from the counseling process and progress will be inhibited" (McMinn, 2011, Kindle Loc. 2864). Again, the focus of counseling should be the counselee and what they need and what they want to work toward. This goes back to the counselee being the expert.
Example: When it comes to financial counseling with a premarital couple, it should be more of a "guiding" principle taken. I believe the safest approach is to teach the couple what a budget is, how to make a budget, and ask them to work on that budget together. Working on the budget together can be a homework assignment that the counselor can check at the next session. This will not seem too direct from the counselor and the couple will be able to work together for the first time (usually the first time) on a better financial future. While working on the budget together they will identify their weaknesses and strenghts. If a more direct approach is taken the couple may seem more reluctant to work on the budget and may not work on one at all. A direct approach may be pulling out a budget sheet and telling the couple to work on it during the session while watching over them. The best approach in counseling is to facilitate the goals of the counselee and while counseling communication should be some where in the middle of indirect and direct.
References:
Kollar, Charles Allen. (2011). Solution focused pastoral counseling: an effective short-term approach for getting people back on track. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan
McMinn, Mark R. (2011). Psychology, theology, and spirituality in christian counseling. Carol Stream, Illinois: Tynadale House.
Thursday, July 24, 2014
Marriage Resiliency
There is no greater times of stress for families and couples than when they have a loved one in the hospital that is either critically injured or is about to pass away. What I noticed out of the couples that I "watched" was that while waiting on some "news" the men and women in those relationships were different in their behaviors, demeanor, and even their likes. Example: The men would either read a magazine from the table, usually a fishing or hunting magazine, while the women would either be talking to other people in the waiting room or on their phones talking. When the "news" came the two came together to console or rejoice with the other regardless of how alike or different they were in that situation.
Another example of people watching is that of being in a coffee shop. There are a variety of the different kinds of couples in coffee shops. There are those that just met and then there are those who have been together for years that just have made a habit of going to the coffee shop to spend time together. It doesn't take long to notice the differences between those who have just newly met and those who have been married or together for years. The new couple is young and just gabbing away discussing their future and the many things that they have in common. Then there is the older couple who is sitting at the table together that will occassionally share a short discussion, but they are reading their newspaper and usually more in solitude. The older couple is usually reading something totally opposite of their mate.
Though these are simple examples and doesn't go into detail the total differences of couples however; it does prove a statement that Deal stated, "When boy meets girl-and boy falls in love with girl-there is a lot of chemistry that is visible to any observer: extended smiles, gazing at each other, gestures that communicate an openness to each other, elation when you hear from them, random acts of kindness, and the like" (Deal, 2012, p.117). At this point when chemistry is so high between the two it can be impossible to tell whether or not the couple is really alike or not. They may have a lot in common such as music, hiking, climbing, fitness, or another of variety of things, but I would say that it is almost nearly impossible to find that perfect someone that one male is perfectly similar to their future mate especially enough to help out during times of adversity. Differences in relationships can be used to or should compliment the differences in each other.
Throughout the Bible and even today there are cultures that have arranged marriages based on the only commonality that their families want them to be together. The very first marriage recorded in the Bible was an arranged marriage by God. The one commonality that they had and what we have today is that they were created in God's image. Hawkins points out that the word helpmeet mentioned in Genesis was derived from, "two Hebrew words: ezer and neged" (Hawkins, 1991, p.14). The two words combined meant that they were created to complement eachother to form a team. Hawkins again points out that, "Adam and Eve were created to complement each other in physiological procreation (Genesis 1:28) and psychological differences" (Hawkins, p. 15). This was God's plan from the very beginning that man and woman would be different to be a team!
If there isn't true likeness in each other as mates then what is the answer because, maybe at first the couple may seem to be so much alike because of the chemistry, but later the chemistry will lower to normal levels and there will definitely be evidence of being so much different. (If it were not so there wouldn't be so many publications on the subject. Anyone remember the phrase men are from mars and woman are from venus?) The best answer I have seen on this subject comes from Hawkins when discussing adaptation. He stated, "When a couple can appreciate their differences and adapt to meeting one another's needs within the context of those differences, intimacy can thrive" (Hawkins, 1991, 87). This is where a couple will find success in thier relationships even in times of stress and adversity; adapting rather than ending the relationship because they were not who each other thought they were.
References
Deal, Ron L. (2012). Dating and the single parent. Minneapolis, Minnesota: Bethany House Publisers.
Hawkins, Ronald E. (1991). Strengthening marital intimacy. Kearney, Nebraska: Morris Publishing.
Wednesday, July 23, 2014
Therapeutic Uses of Scriptures in Counseling
Kollar states, "Any biblical view of how personality develops must be founded on sin, separation from God, redemption, and new life. That is, it must be founded on God's grace and sovereign plan for each individual" (Kollar, 2011, Kindle Loc. 787). With this in mind, I believe that it would be fitting to first state that as Christian counselors we should be concerned with all people and their brokenness; believers and non-believers alike! It is quite easy to say, but a harder task to fulfill when applying the Scriptures to help non-believers to become unbroken or unstuck. Nonetheless, it is our task to first fulfill the Great Commission. McMinn points out that, "Brokenness is a prerequisite to understanding God's grace, but the Christian gospel does not leave us in a state of broken despair" (McMinn, 2011, Kiindle Loc. 769). McMinn goes on to say, "Redemption gives hope and meaning to fallen humans" (McMinn, loc. 769). Therefore, for Scripture to be therapeutic for non-believers they must receive salvation. It doesn't (or shouldn't) stop us from giving them Scriptures of hope which could lead to their salvation though.
For believers that find themselves in a state of being "stuck" or broken, all of the above still pertains to them as well. Scripture gives hope, gives instruction and guidance, transforms lives, and helps build relationships as long as the right Scriptures are used for each individual case. Regardless of what brokenness the Christian has I would agree with McMinn that, "Effective Christian counselors recognize that counseling relationships often point clients toward a healthier view of God" McMinn, 2011, Kindle Loc. 1609). That would be to say that we should first, as in the context that McMinn is speaking of here, use prayer with the counselee's and use prayer before the session for guidance during the sessions; this would include guidance for the right Scriptures. Finally, I would agree with McMinn's statement that, "We need to be concerned not only about theologically proper and correct use of Scripture but also about the power of Scripture. Scripture was given to transform our lives" (McMinn, Kindle Loc. 2217). Scripture has it's various uses, but should be used in the right context and solely for that individual that is being counseled at the moment.
If someone were to step into my office seeking help for addiction I would first do all the things that a counselor do such as the assessment, wise counsel as in give information about fatalities in such cases like alcohol and driving, and get help them get family support. The Scripture that I may use in a situation such as this would be Isaiah 5:11, "Woe to those who rise early in the morning, that they may follow intoxicating drink; who continue until night, till wine inflames them." This would not be the same Scripture that I would use if someone were to come into my office seeking guidance on grief. The Scripture would be much different and I may use Revelation 21:4, "And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away. Both Scriptures are very powerful and would be very therapeutic for the counselee, but in the right context and to the right counselee.
References
Clinton, Tim and Hawkins, Ron. (2009). The quick reference guide to biblical counseling. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Books.
Kollar, Charles Allan. (2011). Solution-focused pastoral counseling: an effective short term approach for getting people back on track. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan.
McMinn, Mark R. (2011). Psychology, theology, and Spirituality in christian counseling. Carol Stream, Illinois: Tyndale House Publishers.
Intellectual Rigor and Pietism
Lane points out that, "In the seventeenth century on a small and in the eighteenth century on a much larger scale, people began to attack Christianity in the name of reason." (1) He again points out that, "As the Christian faith has ceased to command universal acceptance, society has turned to other ideological bases." (2) The former caused many to start turning to atheism and more to science (which if one was to think logically the basis of science came from the Christian community). Due to the latter there have been a ton of different "religions" that have cropped up. Just a couple of examples that have popped up are the Mormons (Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints) and Scientology. Just those two religions were "created" by man just within the past couple of centuries and Scientology being created in the last century.
It does not mean that if Scholasticism and Pietism were very strong today in our culture that there would not be the liberalism, atheism, and the various religions that have strayed from the Christian faith. The Bible says, "For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear" (2 Timothy 4:3, NIV). All of the various teachings only, once again, prove the Bible to be correct. We live in a time when people want what they want when they want it. This also means twisted doctrine to suit their lifestyles!
The numbers of all of the "religions" and protestant denominations either rapidly increasing or decreasing is almost disheartening that it wouldn't take anyone long to even just do a Google search to see that some of the false religions are increasing more than some of our protestant denominations. The Huffington Post published an online article titled, "The Southern Baptist Convention Membership Declined For the Seventh Year. In this article Lifeway President and CEO Thom S. Rainer was quoted saying, "I am grieved we are clearly losing our evangelistic effectiveness." (3) Scholasticism and Pietism would be a great combination at this moment.
A model for Scholasticism and Pietism would be a mix of John Wesley and B.B Warfield. Warfield was reformed theologian that was a Princeton professor. His thought and the Princeton School of Theology may have been far left conservative or rather too reformed, but today that may not be bad. Warfield was dedicated to the study of the Word and theology. His thought on the Bible is that, "The writers wrote precisely what God wanted, the message of the Bible is his message and the Bible can be called his word." (4) In the protestant faith we need this type of belief where there is no room in God's Word for any other message than what was written by the divinely inspired authors.
Pietism with that kind of Scholasticism may not change everyone's mind or even bring every one to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ, but there would be less liberalism, atheism, etc. For example, if in our day and time we had more John Wesley's who was known to be pietist. He, "traveled constantly to spread the good news of grace in Christ" and "preached theses sermons in unfavorable conditions and often in raucous opposition." (5) Itinerant ministers such as John Wesley armed with the Scolasticism as Warfield could make a tremendous difference not just in America, but in all the world. The model in a nut shell would be fired up preachers armed only with the Word of God and with the only intent of fulfilling the Great Commission.
Bibliography
1. Lane, Tony. A Concise History of Christian Thought. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Academic, 2006. 234.
2. Ibid., 235.
3. Lollar, Travis. Southern Baptist Convention Declined for the Seventh Year: Huffington Post. Retrieved July 22, 2014 at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/29/southern-baptist-convention-membership-decline_n_5411695.html.
4. Lane, Tony. A Concise History of Christian Thought. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Academic, 2006. 257.
5. Noll, Mark A. Turning Points: Decisive Moments in the History of Christianity. third ed. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Academic, 2012. Kindle Edition Loc. 4320.
Thursday, July 17, 2014
Let's Be Honest With Others
**Please Read**
Let's Stop Pretending and Let's Start Friending
Struggling with Sin
"For we know that the Law is spiritual, but I am of flesh, sold into bondage to sin. For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate." Romans 7:14&15
*Come on Christians ever been there? Let's not lie to ourselves and to others. We are all liars, thieves, adulterers, gluttons, have coveted, and just all around sinners! Jesus Christ said that if you've looked at someone in lust you've already committed aldutry. The Bible says that if you've wished that something was yours so much that you would do anything to get it you've committed a sin. If you've done something that maybe you didn't think was wrong, but your brother or sister did and you did it in their presence you've sinned. And how about this one, if you over indulge in something such as food or drink you've sinned. Just face it, we are all sinners saved by grace.
But, see the problem is we have Super Christians who don't sin. That tell the world that they do not sin and they preach to the world not to sin. The second problem is this, those who they are speaking to know that those who are speaking are liars. They see them day in and day out. Yet, those same "perfect Christians" who look down on people, who may be overweight, refuse to help others (with a fat wallet), or just outright rude aren't real with people and they don't give them the real answer; Jesus Christ!
I'm gonna be quite honest. I tell people right up front that I am who I am and the only truth that I can speak is the Truth of Christ. I also tell em I'm not the picture perfect Christian so, if that is what your looking for you might want to go to one of the First Church of Something's. But, I always tell em if they want to hear a powerful testimony and a powerful Word I'll do my best...
Monday, July 14, 2014
Some Thoughts to Consider About the Pastoral Counselor Field
Psalm 34:18 says that, "The Lord is near to those who have a a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit" (NKJV). As "Christian" counselors it is our job to convey that message in the most effective way possible. But, to say that counseling is to remove all suffering is hard to say. There are a lot of variables that need to be considered. One variable would be whether the individual is fully participating in counseling and what it is that they are getting counseling for. It could be an ongoing "illness" such as bi-polar (which by the way I believe that the "Church" overlooks such illnesses) which in this case the suffering will not be fully removed; only managed. Another example could be that of grief counseling in which case a counselor may guide the counselee into a better place of mourning however, there still may be some suffering there long after the counseling sessions are done.
I like the way Clinton and Hawkins puts it, "Deliver information to your clients that best helps them get unstuck and move forward more resolutely with the right thinking and focused action of this treatment process" (Clinton and Hawkins, 2009, p.9). In many cases counseling may not remove all suffering, but it is our job's as counselors is to help the counselee to get "unstuck" so that they can move forward in their lives with a better quality of life. If the suffering isn't totally taken away the counselor has done their job if they have helped the counselee to get unstuck from their current situation and guided them with the Holy Spirit.
In order to counsel the broken and broken hearted there are some things to that the counselor should be mindful of. First of all there should be a genuine call to the ministry of counseling. Second, there should be a good knowledge foundation of biblical theology and the methods of counseling. Thirdly, a counselor should have, "a spirit of authentic kindness- the kindness that draws others to them" and a "Compassionate empathy that can deeply relate to others" (Clinton and Hawkins, 2009, p.8). The fourth element, in my opinion, is to learn the art of listening and communicating effectively. Petersen states that communication is, "The oil that lubricates the engine of relationships" (Petersen, 2007, p.4). In other words, if the engine doesn't have oil it will come to a grinding halt just as relationships will without good and effective communication. The last element that is important in counseling, but not the least of all is prayer. The counselor should always rely on prayer for guidance for each counseling session.
References
Clinton, Tim & Hawkins, Ron. (2009). The quick reference guide to biblical counseling. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books.
Petersen, James C. (2009). Why don't we listen better? Communicating & connecting in relationships. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications.
Wednesday, July 9, 2014
The Great Schism of the East and West
Bishop Ware said it correct when he said, "These two distinctive approaches were not in themselves contradictory; each served to supplement the other, and each each had it's place in the fullness of the Catholic tradition." (2) He went on to say that the divide and with no oversight both sides would take their views to an extreme. As speculated, the East and West did just that. They both would add their own theological ideas to their beliefs and creeds. In doing so there became to different extreme approaches of worship and theological views.
After the Great Schism the West started "adding" "and the Son" and filoque which asserted the doctrine of the doctrine of the procession of the Holy Ghost from the Son as well as from the Father; this was not admitted by the East. Therefore, "The Orthodox complained that the West was was violating the spirit as well as the of what had transpired at Nicea." (3) The Council at Nicea was an important event because it dealt with Christological issues and the Nicene Creed was seen as the first set of Christian doctrines. For a religious organization to blatantly add to it whether right or wrong, in their viewpoint, caused even more of a division.
Looking back at schisms and specifically the Great Schism there is much that can be learned in our churches today. There are many different denominations or religious affiliations that are very different in their beliefs and though there may not be any way that we can change all of thier beliefs, but as Christians we can do as Christ would by loving them and telling them the truth in a caring way. Just as there were the "Councils" to try to head much of all of this off I'm not sure that we are going to be able to close the gap on the many schisms we have today.
However, I believe that if we do as Christ commands us to, "Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature" (Mark 16:15; NKJV), we will come closer to closing that gap. This is my favorite version of the Great commandment as the word "creature" hints that we are to preach to everyone of all nations, creeds, male or female, or background. This means even to those with other beliefs than ours with chance of hopefully turning them to the Truth; after all there are many religious organizations that have really gotten way off track. But, I will say that some or even many will not hear the Truth because they have been blinded just as those during the early church era. One last note about what Christ said, "Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it" (Matt. 7:14; NKJV). But, that doesn't mean that we aren't supposed to do our part to fulfill the Great Commission!
References
1. Noll, Mark A. Turning Points, Third Edition: Decisive Moments in the History of Christianity (Grand Rapids: Baker Academic, 2012). Kindle E-Book Loc. 2526.
2. Ibid., Kindle Loc. 2570.
3. Ibid., Kindle Loc. 2582.
Monday, July 7, 2014
Marriage: Love or Not?
Just as there are a lot of reasons for people to marry the definition of love has many definitions. First, Merriam-Webster defines love as, "A strong affection for a person, attraction that includes sexual desire, and a person you love in a romantic way" (Merriam-Webster, 2014, Definition of Love). As anyone can see the definition even from the dictionary has a broad sense of the word love. The broad sense of the definition of love has also spilled over into our culture. Some people may find someone that they are attracted to and they "feel" in love with that person. Or maybe someone does a great act for another and then all of the sudden there is an overwhelming "feeling" of love. Stepping away from the worldly definition of love I believe that we should look to the Bible for our answers. Because after all, as Christians we are supposed to leave the world behind and look for direction from God's Word; right?
If we look to the Bible for the definition of love we find verses such as, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son" (John 3:16, NKJV). But, the problem is can we as humans live up to that standard of love? such as what God has? The love that God has for His creation is defined as an Agape love which is the highest form of love that can ever be felt or acknowledged. This type of love is an all encompassing love that loves without limits, without ill will, and that is a sacrificial love. God's love for us is a different love than most if not all humans are incapable of actually doing because as the Bible explains we are imperfect and that our knowledge is only finite, "For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away" (1 Corinthians 13:9-10). We must also consider that we are also sinful which will also make us selfish at times and will also keep us from truly having that Agape love as God loves us. In a sense the love that we feel will fall short of how God loves and our love is a "feeling" or an emotion that can at best be temporary. A great example of this is when Jesus asked Peter if he loved (Agape) more than the other disciples, but every time that Peter answered he replied with yes Lord you know that I love (phileo) You (John 21:15-17). Jesus was asking if Peter loved Him unselfishly, but Peter always answered with a word for love that is defined as just a fervent love for another; there was never a confirmation of a selfless love such as an Agape love.
So, when we get married should it be for love or for some other reason? I believe that people do love (have an attraction or an attachment to other people), but this feeling can be deceiving and temporary. This is why the divorce rate is high even among Christians. However, the Bible does give some guidelines on why get married and how our love should be. But, first I would like to offer a piece advice that may be helpful. In describing the struggles that couples have Deal discusses some real scenarios that people have after just a short time in marriage. He points to an e-mail that he received about a woman who was suffering due to issues in the marriage because she and her mate can't come to terms of agreement of matters such as parenting and step parenting. Deal says that, "People make decisions of relationships, family decisions, and parenting on ache (trying to run from the pit of pain) and pull of love (the desire for attachment) instead of letting wisdom do that for them" (Ron L. Deal, 2012, pp. 22-23). Therefore, we should have not only love, but also wisdom.
Wisdom comes from the knowledge of God's Word and Godly couples should first look to the wisdom of God for guidance even before the wedding bells ring. Ok, so there is "love", an attraction, or more than likely an attachment therefore, Paul says, "But, I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Cor. 7:8-9, emphasis added, NKJV). It is a sinful act to give into lust outside of marriage so, Paul says that it is better to be married than to sin. But, there is also Good News about marriage and how to keep that love alive in the marriage; again Christians should be looking to the Bible for knowledge and wisdom in all areas of our lives.
When speaking about the gifts that individuals could possess Paul says that all of them are worthless without love (charity). Probably some of the most misunderstood Scriptures in the Bible is that of 1 Corinthians 13:1-8; specifically vv. 4-8. Paul says, "Charity suffers long, is kind, does not envy, does not boast, not puffed up, is not selfish, does not rejoice in iniquity, bears all things, believes all things, hopes in all things, endures all things, and never fails" (1 Cor. 13:4-8, paraphrased, KJV). The word charity in the KJV of the Bible means love and a true biblical sense of love that God would have us to have toward others especially our loved ones. This is one reason that why premarital counseling is important so, that some of these characteristics can be brought to light and to ensure that both individuals are willing to go beyond the feelings of love to ensure that these characteristics are met "until death do them part". Indeed, couples should not married merely for love, but should marry on the foundation of Wisdom!
References
Deal, Ron L. (2012). Dating and the single parent. Minneapolis, Minnesota: Bethany House Publishers.
Merriam-Webster. (2014) The Merriam-Webster dictionary: the definition of love. Kindle Version: An Encyclopedia Britannica Company.
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Biblical Leadership: Character of the Christian
In Matthew 6:24 Jesus states that, "No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You can not serve God and money." There are many different aspects of leadership in the Christian context, some are paid leadership positions and others aren't. The same is true in non-Christian environments however, most leadership positions in the non-Christian setting are paid. Nonetheless, it shouldn't matter whether a Christian is in one environment or the other the character should remain the same; remain "salt and light to the world."
As a missionary and tent maker the Apostle Paul could relate to both environments. In the Book of Collossians Paul states, "Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people (Col. 3:23)." In the full context of Collossians 3:18-25 the Apostle Paul was talking to all people to include husbands, wives, children, and servants. All of the environments wasn't particularly in Christian environments especially when he addressed the slaves. The point is that no matter what environment a Christian is in he/she should work (or lead) as if they were working for the Lord. A Christians character is defined by being the light and salt to the world in whatever environment that they find themselves.
I agree with Howell that, "Biblical leadership is taking the initiative to influence people to grow in holiness and passionately promote the extension of God's Kingdom in the world." (3) An experience that I can illustrate this is my personal experience while in the Army particularly while deployed. Before going out on mission all those involved in the mission would have to do "mission prep" which we would prepare our vehicles and gear for the mission. All of my guys knew that I was a Christian and on the last two deployments I had already accepted the call into ministry. It is a difficult task to share Christ in the military environment, but that didn't stop me from leading as if I was leading for the Lord.
I passionately promoted the extension of the Kingdom by leading as Christ lead His disciples; "I did not come to be served, but to serve." I demonstrated to the guys that I led that whatever they were doing I would be there with them and if I expected a certain standard for them I ensured them that I held myself to that same standard. Often times missions were long and draining, but there was still work to do such as doing maintenance on our vehicles or maybe we returned to the forward operating base during a meal time; which was a luxury for us. I decided that I would be different than other leaders that would just send their guys to do the work and send someone after meals for the others while the leader went back to their "hooches" (our quarters while deployed). I would either go for the meals myself or I would take the place of one of my guys to do maintenance of the vehicles and allow one of them to go the their hooch; I usually rotated the guys after each mission.
Something else that I would do is that when we lined up after mission prep to get ready to go out on mission I always prayed and had a military Bible that stayed in my vehicle. None of my guys were Christians, but I still prayed for them, others in the convoy, and the overall success of the mission. I never left the gate without doing so. I never did this for recognition, but there were some occasions that my guys would thank me for being the kind of leader that I was and without boasting too much my team or squad was always recognized as the best in the company. As an non-commissioned officer I was rated on my performance by my leadership and I would often get better ratings as other non-commissioned officers in the company also.
Bottom line, it is character that defines a person. A christian should have the character that would exemplify our Lord and that should extend from the church to the world. No matter what environment or context they find themselves they should work as if they are working for the Lord whether it is working at the bottom of the totem pole, the CEO of a fortune 500 company, or fighting in the trenches.
1. Malphurs, Aubry. Being Leaders: The Nature of Authentic Christian Leadership. Grand Rapids, Michigan, Baker Books, 2003. pg 18
2. Ibid. pg. 18
3. Howell, Don N. Servants of the Servant: A Biblical Theology of Leadership. Eugene, Oregon, Wipf & Stock Publishers, 2003. pg. 3
Saturday, May 17, 2014
Resilience For Youth
**If you have influence over youth such as a parent, teacher, school counselor, or a youth minister this blog entry is for you.**
There are five things that I usually teach the youth when I speak to them about being resilient. Well, there are six because I usually have to explain what resilience is.
Definition of resilience: The ability to bounce back from a challenge or adversity. This ability is an inner resource that gives you the strength to face the challenge and overcome it no matter what it is.
1. Know that adversities or challenges will happen: There will be days when the sun is shining and everything is smooth sailing. However, there are also other days that will challenge who they are, what they want to be, and where they want to go. It is inevitable!
Jesus said, "I have said these things to you, that in Me, you may have peace. In the world you will tribulation. But, take heart; I have overcome the world" (John 16:33).
2. Self Talk: This isn't a crazy phenomenon; we all do it! Imagine that your about to start a race and your at the starting line. Usually someone who wants to defeat this challenge and everyone else in that race is talking to themselves in their heads saying, "I can do this! I will defeat and crush this event. It is important that they believe in themselves enough to tell themselves that "THEY CAN DO IT!"
Along with self talk when I'm talking to youth groups at a church (and I usually am) I let them know that it is more important for them to being talking to God during a challenge. I always remind them of this verse: "And that all this assembly may know that the Lord saves not with sword and spear. For the battle is the Lord's, and He will give you into our hand" (1 Samuel 17:47). Just as David wanted to demonstrate to everyone that his God gives victory to His children in overwhelming odds we as His children should do the same.
3. Know your strengths: Everyone has a strength and skills that they are either born with or just learned that strength through building it up. In many cases some are born with many strengths, but in either case it is important to discover those strengths and sharpen them.
The Bible says, "If the ax is dull and it's edge unsharpened, more strength is needed, but skill will bring success" (Ecclesiastes 10:10).
4. Set Goals: Goal setting helps our youth to stay focused on what they are striving for rather than their current situation. When goal setting there should be measurable, attainable, and realistic goals. Hope is also restored even more when there has been success in achieving goals.
The Bible says, "I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:14).
5. Maintain Good Relationships: Good relationships should start with God, then family, and finally with friends. Whether our youth know it or not (adults too) they need relationships for love and encouragement. It is difficult to get through any adversity or challenge alone. We should first let our youth know that God loves them with an Agape Love; unconditional. Earthly relationships are just as important as well because they offer someone to talk to physically, offer encouragement, and often times Godly advice.
The Bible says, "He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm" (Proverbs 13:20). "And let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more, as you see the day drawing near" (Hebrews 10:24-25).
**I usually end with a verses that reminds them (us) that adversity and challenges are helpful for us. "It is good for me that I was afflicted, that I might learn your statutes" (Psalm 119:71). "And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope" (Romans 5:3-4).
Monday, April 21, 2014
The Bible's Historicity
I believe in Christ not because I have seen Him, but because I know what He has done in my life and I have faith. Faith by definition is simply believing in the unseen. I do not have to defend my faith in order to calm any unrest in my soul, but rather I defend my faith so, that others will know the Truth as I know it. You see, I myself grew up in a household that did not worship God, never went to church, and until I came to the saving knowledge of Christ I considered myself an atheist. And even after I received Christ as my personal Savior I researched everything about this new faith I had. It is when I came to think of myself as a "thinking Christian" because I put a lot of thought into this faith.
Did you know that the historicity of the Bible can be trusted more than any other book written before or after it. Now, I would like to name a few people in Ancient times who wrote something about this Bible and especially Jesus. I can assure you that these documents still exist and can be researched.
First, Tacitus should be mentioned. Let's begin our inquiry with a passage that historian Edwin Yamauchi calls "probably the most important reference to Jesus outside the New Testament." Reporting on Emperor Nero's decision to blame the Christians for the fire that had destroyed Rome in A.D. 64, the Roman historian Tacitus wrote:
Nero fastened the guilt . . . on a class hated for their abominations, called Christians by the populace. Christus, from whom the name had its origin, suffered the extreme penalty during the reign of Tiberius at the hands of . . . Pontius Pilatus, and a most mischievous superstition, thus checked for the moment, again broke out not only in Judaea, the first source of the evil, but even in Rome.
Second, Pliny the Younger should be mentioned. Another important source of evidence about Jesus and early Christianity can be found in the letters of Pliny the Younger to Emperor Trajan. Pliny was the Roman governor of Bithynia in Asia Minor. In one of his letters, dated around A.D. 112, he asks Trajan's advice about the appropriate way to conduct legal proceedings against those accused of being Christians. Pliny says that he needed to consult the emperor about this issue because a great multitude of every age, class, and sex stood accused of Christianity.
At one point in his letter, Pliny relates some of the information he has learned about these Christians:
They were in the habit of meeting on a certain fixed day before it was light, when they sang in alternate verses a hymn to Christ, as to a god, and bound themselves by a solemn oath, not to any wicked deeds, but never to commit any fraud, theft or adultery, never to falsify their word, nor deny a trust when they should be called upon to deliver it up; after which it was their custom to separate, and then reassemble to partake of food--but food of an ordinary and innocent kind.
Third, Josephus should be mentioned. Perhaps the most remarkable reference to Jesus outside the Bible can be found in the writings of Josephus, a first century Jewish historian. On two occasions, in his Jewish Antiquities, he mentions Jesus. The second, less revealing, reference describes the condemnation of one "James" by the Jewish Sanhedrin. This James, says Josephus, was "the brother of Jesus the so-called Christ." F.F. Bruce points out how this agrees with Paul's description of James in Galatians 1:19 as "the Lord's brother." And Edwin Yamauchi informs us that "few scholars have questioned" that Josephus actually penned this passage.
As interesting as this brief reference is, there is an earlier one, which is truly astonishing. Called the "Testimonium Flavianum," the relevant portion declares:
About this time there lived Jesus, a wise man, if indeed one ought to call him a man. For he . . . wrought surprising feats. . . . He was the Christ. When Pilate . . .condemned him to be crucified, those who had . . . come to love him did not give up their affection for him. On the third day he appeared . . . restored to life. . . . And the tribe of Christians . . . has . . . not disappeared.
Fourth, evidence from the Babylonian Talmud. There are only a few clear references to Jesus in the Babylonian Talmud, a collection of Jewish rabbinical writings compiled between approximately A.D. 70-500. Given this time frame, it is naturally supposed that earlier references to Jesus are more likely to be historically reliable than later ones. In the case of the Talmud, the earliest period of compilation occurred between A.D. 70-200. The most significant reference to Jesus from this period states:
On the eve of the Passover Yeshu was hanged. For forty days before the execution took place, a herald . . . cried, "He is going forth to be stoned because he has practiced sorcery and enticed Israel to apostasy."
And finally, Lucian should be considered. Lucian of Samosata was a second century Greek satirist. In one of his works, he wrote of the early Christians as follows:
The Christians . . . worship a man to this day--the distinguished personage who introduced their novel rites, and was crucified on that account. . . . [It] was impressed on them by their original lawgiver that they are all brothers, from the moment that they are converted, and deny the gods of Greece, and worship the crucified sage, and live after his laws.
Friday, March 21, 2014
The Publican and the Pharisee
Thursday, March 20, 2014
The Devils Job
He is our Good Shepherd that came that came to lead us to still waters and green pastures. It is important for us to realize this in out lives to live a more resilient life. If we don't constantly keep in the forefront of our minds that Christ is our Shepherd that has good in store for us and that He desires to lead us to peace and good in our lives we will have difficult times to overcome the adversity that we will face in our lives.
It isn't if we will face challenges, but when will we face challenges in our lives. Christ gave us notice in advance that in this live we will face troubles, but He has sent us a Helper who is the Holy Spirit to Help in our daily lives.
So, when you face adversity and challenges in your life look to Christ our Good Shepherd who is leading you. He will lead you to peace, to the still waters, and the green pastures.
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Daily Reminder
Saturday, February 8, 2014
Learn and Do
Philippians 4:9, “The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.”
I have noticed as the body of Christ, the Members, have different agenda's which can only lead to one conclusion; we are members of a different Body. Is this true? I think NOT! A true born again Christian is the member of One Body; Jesus Christ. In the light of knowing that what should we then conclude? There is a biblical model that we should mirror as the Body of Christ. The Apostle Paul knew this. The things that we hear, read, learn, and receive should lead us into the actions that we do.
A look at the history of Christianity, especially in America, will testify to the actions of the Body. We were once a light that people were drawn to. In times of peril people of all kinds needed that Light and were all too willing to come. Slaves, the poor, the needy, leadership, soldiers, and the list goes on. From George Washington to Abraham Lincoln to those in need during the depression people from all backgrounds, races, and creeds were drawn to the Light that we as the members provided. It is time that we come back together as One Body to be that Light once again. "Know the Word", do what we receive, and may the God of peace with us!
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
The Christian Faith
1. Christ said in Matthew 7:14 that "the gateway to life is very narrow and the road is difficult, and only a few ever find it." The Christian faith is a difficult life to maintain and is very hard for many to live due to the temptations of this world; therefore, leaving the path narrow. Few will be able to come to terms with what Christ commands of His disciples. We must love the Father and we must love our neighbors. There is too much hatred and bitterness for some to do that.
2. Jesus Himself was the center of opposition. Mark 3:6 says, "At once the Pharisees went away and met with the supporters of Herod to plot how to kill Jesus." It should be no surprise to anyone that if Jesus had opposition we will also. The Pharisees were the religious elite of the time and still opposed Christ. Nonetheless, it should not stop us from "being salt and light to the world."
3. Jesus did not show hatred nor did He avoid those who had opposing views. As in the case of the Pharisees He told them strait away where they were lacking. I would remind everyone that Christ also gave the Pharisees the chance to hear the Good News and also associated with them, "One of the Pharisees asked Jesus to have dinner with him, so Jesus went to his home and sat down to eat" (Luke 7:36). Not only did Christ eat with them and associate with the religious elite, but he was also known to hang out at parties, was called a drunkard Himself, talked to prostitutes, and all around hung out with sinners. All of this was done so that they would be able to hear the Gospel. Another thing that was not looked upon very well in His time (and even today) was that He had women in His ministry and talked to children.
4. Jesus was never angry about someone not accepting Him or the Gospel; it was more saddening to Him and should be to us as well. The Gospel of Luke chapter nine tells of an instance when a whole town did not accept Jesus and this angered two of His disciples, "When James and John saw this, they said to Jesus, "Lord, should we call down fire from heaven to burn them up?" (verse 54) Jesus' response was that He rebuked them. It would also be the same response that we would get from Him at times as well.
It is our job as Christians to be the salt to a world that needs seasoning and light to light the dark pathways of others. However, if you have contempt to others because they have opposing views then you should ask yourself "what am I really trying to convince others or what is my real agenda?"
**Some may ask about the money changers and the moment that Jesus chased them out of the Temple with a whip. This is correct, but it was just as Christ said, "The Scriptures declare, 'My Temple will be called a house of prayer,' but you have turned it into a den of thieves!"
Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Washed By The Water Cover
Monday, January 27, 2014
This Much Passion For The Lord
People have different passions and that's alright. People get passionate about their jobs, their studies, and hobbies. They also find other people that share that passion with them such as football fans.
A question for Christians. Why are we not that passionate about the Lord and his coming. His coming will be a One Day event that will last for years. I wonder how come when we gather there isn't that much excitement and passion. There are other like minded people there as well. Stir each other up to be passionate about the Lord and excited for His coming.
The Three Simple Elements of the Church
- There are three simple elements that must be the core of any organization and even more in the church: The first is that there must be a well defined mission. Without mission that organization will cease to exist; it will not take long. The second is simply communication. Communication is key to any organization and in every aspect of it. But, the mission of that organization has to be communicated and often. If the mission isn't communicated the people and the leader will forget what they are there for. The third element is action. The mission of that organization has to be put into action. Without the mission in action there is no need for that organization to exist. If we aren't meeting together to put the mission in action we are only meeting to fellowship. Meeting together is good, but nothing will get accomplished and the organization will soon cease to exist.
All of this goes back to something that I wrote earlier: Passion! Passion for that mission will ensure that it is communicated and put into action.
Thursday, January 16, 2014
Preparing For Ministry While in the Military
Though I try my best to humbly convey how my leadership experience will easily transfer into ministry leadership it still isn't enough and there are some things that a resume just doesn't say. What the resume doesn't say is that I have had some great ministry opportunities and ministry growth while still soldiering. Here are some ways that I have used to prepare for the ministry and think of it this way, I have spent the time since answering the call into ministry as preparation for ministry (which is more time than most ministers).
A reoccurring theme of the following statement will be during times of deployment. That is because during deployments (there have been four) my job required most of my time away from the forward operating base (FOB) with just my battle buddies (fellow soldiers). There were very few times (very few!) that a Chaplain accompanied us because they weren't allowed weapons and not out on mission.
Prayer: First and foremost a minister should have an excellent prayer life; not only by himself alone with God, but also corporately. Though the Army has at times a fast paced life, the Army encourages time for self and family. I have used this time to build my prayer life and my families prayer life. There are plenty of times a soldier will struggle with life issues and injuries and I have taken every opportunity (and there has been a lot) to talk with them and pray with them.
Devotion: There were plenty of time to spend on my scriptural reading (and again, prayer) and growing in knowledge of our Lord while deployed due to being away from everything except to focus on mission. Think about it, without distractions, television, and games if you have four to six hours to sleep without the distractions of family or anything else you have plenty of time to do devotion time. That's for at least four long straight years (in my case), but those devotions helped me to grow and helped those deployments to go by smoother. On my third deployment I had the opportunity to share devotions with a Christian Iraqi and if given the chance I would love to tell you his story.
Evangelizing: Evangelizing has to be done very carefully in the military due to the fact that "sharing the Gospel" isn't supposed to happen. Though I was very bold I still had to be careful. I have also had the great opportunity to share the Gospel with a lot of Muslims; Iraqi's, Afghani's, Indians (from India), and Africans. Isn't that what the Great Commission is all about?
Discipleship: I wasn't the only Christian in the Army! There are Christians from all backgrounds and of all ages. Because Chaplains aren't always easy to find and aren't always available especially in my line of work I have had the great opportunity in starting very spontaneous and creative discipleship training programs for other guys that I have been either in the field with or deployed with. This has required very limited resources.
Apologetics: On the other side of the coin not all people in the Army are Christians! There are people from all backgrounds and with all types of beliefs. I have had some great opportunities to share my Christian view with various people such as atheist and other religious backgrounds (such as Muslims). In all cases the discussions were welcomed from both sides and was carried out very civilized. Without waver I have been able to share the Christian view with those people and in some cases leaving no doubt in their mind (you are not going to win them all) that our God is the one true God and the Creator of man and the universe.
This list could continue on and on of how I have been "informally" preparing for the ministry while in the military. While being a soldier for our country I have also soldiered for our Lord. I have used every opportunity for growth. As growth happened in the Army growth also happened for me in service to our Lord.
I would also once again state that the leadership training in the military is training that many businesses would love to have for their corporate executives. The leadership training is top notch and prepares soldiers for any leadership position.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. Have a blessed day!
Dare to be Bold
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Thanks Roger Dale Griggs
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Statements of Faith
Wednesday, January 8, 2014
Why Resilience Training!
Life events (adversity and challenges in life) come to everyone. There is no one that will be able to escape this life without facing some kind of challenge. Those challenges affect everyone different as well. Adversity comes in the form of divorce, loss of a job, looked over for promotion, death of a loved one, or injury. Injury tends to get people down more than anything else especially if it was a debilitating injury. Some people are able to pick themselves up, see past those events, and get through them without a problem; often becoming a stronger person because of the event. However, others aren't.
Resilience is the ability to "bounce back" or a better definition is the ability to bounce back and become stronger. For an individual it is the capability to face the adversity that they have in their lives and overcome it. I often bring up the point that about 25% of Americans suffer from depression and anxiety (depending on who you get your information from). While some of it is due to genetics others suffer from the behavioral issues because of life events. In some cases, those who are struck with depression are struck with what is called Major Depression if they see that there is no light at the tunnel.
To further drive the point of why an organization should opt for some resilience training or a resilience seminar is because the leadership also needs it. When we talk about Churches as an organization (we are often calling it a "Corporate"; i.e corporate prayer) statistically speaking, Ministers and the Ministry Team suffer at a higher rate of depression and anxiety. It's estimated that about 17% suffer from just anxiety alone.
A common misconception is that if we are leading our weekly Sunday School or preaching we are doing what we can to help people become strong and face adversity. Actually, people will not tie that particular sermon with their suffering and it takes more than a couple of points in a sermon to help someone become resilient. You may say, "Well, I will conduct a sermon series over Resilience." That may be one way to do it, but unless they are actually paying attention, taking notes, and actually remembering your sermons from week to week the people won't get it.
The fact is the resilience training should be conducted in a learning environment and in a way that is relevant in learning this type of material. I have sat in on a few sermons and sermon series that were "supposedly" over resilience and they may have brushed over one or two points that actually help in building resilience. Same thing goes for the sermons and sermon series that are online; they rarely teach the real "meat" to being resilient.
I made my way to Walter Reed where I was again diagnosed with traumatic brain injury and treated. I spent several weeks there receiving therapy for many of the cognitive issues that I was having. When I was able to go back to my home station it wasn't long until they decided that it was better if I was out of the Army to rehabilitate. They put me on a medical retirement.
This injury and everything that went with it started to take over; actually started to consume me. I wasn't taking home life or me not being my old self very well. Before this I was a very motivated, independent, and goal oriented person. As far as home life; I was never there because of some Army school, training exercise, or deployment. So, it all hit me hard. I couldn't do much other than make my appointments and there were many that I cancelled.
I was constantly searching for "Why Me, Lord" because I was a good soldier and had a good career going; this doesn't happen to Christians. Another thing that devastated me was that two years before I was injured I accepted the call into ministry (October 2005). How could God expect me to do ministry if I couldn't collect and hold a thought and I stuttered.
One day at an appointment I stumbled upon an article that told how well soldiers were dealing with post traumatic stress disorder and traumatic brain injury which wasn't very well. Because of these injuries many soldiers turn to drugs, alcohol, become homeless, or even worse commit suicide. At that moment I decided that I wasn't going to let myself slip any further.
I developed for myself some resilience techniques that was relevant for Christians. I soon started doing ministry again. My appointments started getting less and less until the Army actually asked me if I wanted to go back on active duty. When I got back in the Army I heard of a big program to help soldiers and their families become resilient. Of course my leadership thought that I was a great candidate for that training. I took every course that was relevant for my pay grade (E-6/SSG) which enabled me to train others to be resilient.
Long story short, I have now finished my obligation with the Army and starting this ministry to help others become resilient to help them overcome their challenges and adversity. Out of what I learned in my own experience and taught through the Army I have developed a Christian Resilience Program that is Biblically based. I have also been working on a book "A Christians Guide to Resilience" that will be available soon.
I hope that you have enjoyed this article. I know that it was a little lengthy, but it is something that I am very passionate about. If you have any questions about any of this or if you would like for me to come speak at your church or organization please contact me at: 502-370-0409 or rogergriggsministry@gmail.com.
Saturday, January 4, 2014
All Things Work Together For Good
Being that Joseph was the source of Jacobs joy the other brothers were jealous and plotted to kill him. However, the thought occurred to them that it would be of no profit to kill him. So, they decided to sell Joseph into Egyptian slavery. This would profit them by a) getting rid of their bother and b) they would also gain profit monetarily.
Matthew Henry sums it up well, "It is common for those that are beloved of God to be hated by the world; whom Heaven blesses, hell curses." It is certain that when God's children start to be blessed by Him they will also start to feel the curses of the devil trying to impede on them.
Because we know the outcome of Josephs story we could also state that, "we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them" (Romans 8:28).
No matter what your situation is right now know that the outcome will be good and God will bless you for it as long as you stay focused on Him.


